Being Able To Move On: A Vital Skill

Anyone that knows me can tell you that I love cars. And it’s true. I also form attachments very easily; it’s very hard for me to let go. So when it came time to sell my first car, I knew it wasn’t going to be easy. I was right, I’ve been wanting to sell it since July and I posted it up for sale on Sunday. But now that I think about it, this is the first time I’ve been able to properly move on from something. Let me explain.

I’ve known for a while that my 1999 Porsche Boxster with a manual transmission, hard suspension, and an AC with a mind of its own wasn’t going to be an ideal commuter car to USC in the heart of Los Angeles. But every time I thought of putting it up for sale, I held myself back. For some reason I couldn’t let it go. After almost a year of going back and forth between whether or not I should sell it, I decided last week that it was time to do what was right. To my surprise it was a completely painless thing, I listed the car with no hesitation and as of now, I’m eagerly waiting for an interested buyer to contact me.

I mentioned earlier how I formed attachments very easily and all my life this actually ended up hurting me. This was especially true when it came time to let go of friends. In life, friends come and go, and that’s that. Over the course of the last year, I’ve lost two of my closest friends and if you look at it logically, it was for good reason. It’s just I couldn’t let them go. It felt like I instantly lost them and there really wasn’t time to say goodbye. It took me almost a year to accept that they were no longer going to be a part of my life. I reacted similarly to one losing a family member; I couldn’t move on.

But with my car, I did have time to say goodbye. I know that when I sell it, I’m not going to try and buy it back, or dwell on what could have been. This is the first time I’ve been able to do this and I’m pretty happy. I feel calm and relaxed, like it’s just another day.

Learning to move on is a really vital skill in life. It saves you so much stress and headache. You can sleep soundly at night without dwelling on the past. It’s like you’re the one in control when you can move on from something. When I cut off my friend, I let that action dictate everything in my life for the next few months. For my other friend, I was never really able to get over it, not even to this day. But the idea of moving on is certainly something I’ve learned the value of, and it’s definitely something I will be working on. I recommend you do the same.